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All My Friends Are Getting Married

A journey through the mind of the single friend.

Please note that there is no intention of making my friends feel bad, just some things that make me chuckle.

“You’re at that age.”

“It’s that time in your life.”

If I have to hear these phrases one more time when I mention the amount of weddings I have been invited to I am going to scream.

I am not kidding.

Since I started college back in 2005 I have been present at about 32 weddings (I say about because I had to write as many as I could remember down and there’s a pretty good chance I’ve missed some). I say present because I’ve been invited to at least 41 weddings but was unable to attend some.

Now on average that doesn’t seem that bad…it’s about 3 weddings a year, however the last 3 years have accounted for more than half of those weddings.

But for the rest of this post, let’s just focus on one year…this year, 2014.

This summer alone I was invited to 10 weddings, was available to attend 3 before I left for Boston, missed 3 while I was in Boston, never planned on going to two because they were the same day as one that I ended up missing while I was in Boston, and 2 I was invited to in August, 1 I’ve already attended and 1 this weekend.

You still with me.

I don’t know if you know this, but that’s a lot. Also, let me note that none of the weddings I was invited to were in Bozeman. The closest was Butte 75 miles away, the furthest Kalispell about 300 miles. 3 were in Helena (90 miles) 1 in Polson (about 270 miles) 1 Butte, and 5 in Kalispell.

Yes that’s a lot of driving, but more over, that’s a lot of money…just spent driving, I don’t even want to calculate how much it would be total or even factor in gifts.

My fridge looked like a wonderland of save the dates and wedding invites, I had to buy more magnets just to accommodate them all. I’ve never been more excited to get a save the date magnet, so I would have something to hold up all the other save the dates.

This is my reality.

The end is in sight, a wedding this weekend and one in November (which takes the tally up to 11 for the year).

I am holding my breath for with fingers crossed that I won’t have as many weddings next summer.

Seriously I already have one wedding that I’m aware of and my whole summer has been rearranged accordingly, even school in Boston. It’s kind of a big one, my brother is getting married I don’t even want to think about the insanity that accompanies a family wedding.

So I am starting a friendship application process, new friends are always welcome, but if they are currently in a committed relationship and looking to possibly get married within the next two years, they will be put on a waiting list, and friendship will begin post wedding.

All current friends, you have been grandfathered in, so no worries. Please understand that if you get a handmade pot holder as a wedding gift, it’s because I am tapped out and have no money to purchase a gift.

But hey at least it’s handmade.

Miss Montana Had It Wrong…

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A couple of years ago I found myself watching the Miss America pageant. Don’t ask me why, I have no idea. It was on and I was intrigued. At the very beginning of the televised part, all the girls are introduced and they get to have a clever little sentence they say about which state they are from.  I have never watched a Miss America pageant, so I became instantly curious about what Miss Montana would say about our beautiful Big Sky State. Perhaps something about the speed limit, or the fact that even the democrats own guns, but no, Miss Montana made a comment about our wonderful state only having two seasons, winter and pre-winter. What?! There are so many better things to say that would be funny and highlight where you come from…all she really did was repeat a poorly constructed joke and belittle the place she was supposed to be representing, after that I changed the channel.

Now some of you might be asking why I was so offended by a joke about the weather, yes Montana does have a long winter, and we never know when it will start or end, but we really do experience the other seasons, I promise. However short and fleeting our spring, summer, and autumn are. They sure do come with pizazz, and it is best to take advantage while you have the chance. This is why as soon as it hits 45 degrees in March (or April) we’re all wearing shorts and t-shirts, come visit us during the summer and the lakes are full of boaters and swimmers, the mountains full of hikers and the parks full of picnic baskets. And when the leaves of fall start to appear in September and October the sidewalks are full of people walking and kicking up the fallen leaves, enjoying the new crisp chill in the air and apple cider.

I know it is standard for us as a people and culture to see winter as the end of the year, however, I have always seen winter as the renewal and beginning. Maybe it’s my Catholic beliefs, and the fact that Advent is the beginning of the new liturgical year, or maybe it’s just that when everything is covered with a beautiful layer of cold snow. A snow that deadens all sound and yet reflects all light, and brightens even the darkest of nights. It’s clean, and when I look out at the streets, trees, houses, and mountains. I see a fresh start, a new beginning.  Its calm and its peaceful, a deep breath before everything picks back up again.

Spring is that renewal realized, everything is cleaned up and nature is prepared to make way for all the coming regrowth. We as humans do that too, after winter we seem to have more energy, hello spring-cleaning! Spring gives us hope. Again, this might have something to do with the fact that in the liturgical year Spring is a new beginning with Lent and Easter…I know it doesn’t seem that way, but as a Christian Catholic there is a beauty in the waiting of Lent, just like we wait and hold our breaths for new flowers and the leaves to appear green on the trees.  Then with the Crucifixion and Resurrection of Easter there is new life and we can rejoice in that, just as we do when we can play outside again, and yes, even mow the lawn.  Spring is rejuvenating.

With summer we are at our peak, we’ve settled into the re-creation of nature and life, as we know it continues on. This really won’t settle in until after the school thing, when you’re working full time. Because hey, when you’re an adult, you don’t get 3 months off for a summer vacation, for most people they maybe get a week or two. Unless you’re a teacher, or a youth minister…I still work, it’s just more fun during the summer, hence the reason I took the job, duh. Just kidding. Summer really is easy going because we’re all settle into our routine of work and recreation.

Then comes autumn, which is one of my favorite seasons, don’t get me wrong I love them all, but there’s just something about the color change and the temperature drop, and postseason baseball. Okay, a lot of that has to do with postseason baseball, but more on that later. 

I think there is something so beautiful and sad about fall. In my mind it really is the end of the year, a time for me to reflect on the past 10 months, and to make a change, if there is something that has been bothering me that whole time, I either choose to actively change it immediately, or I let it go. I do a lot of letting go. I think that’s really what fall is all about. Prepping you for the new things to come, to make room for renewal.  

Just like you have to make room on your hard drive for more music, photos, videos, etc. It’s so easy to hold onto things, and to let them define us for the next however many days, months, or years, but just like the trees have to shed their leaves for the winter, to prepare for the new buds in the spring, we humans need to shed all that hold us back. And what better time than fall? It’s almost as if God devised the seasons as a guide for us to follow, a cycle for us to use to our advantage. 

If you’ve ever listened to Vivaldi’s Four Seasons, this makes perfect sense. Seriously it’s beautiful listen to it.

I have visited New York in the fall, Washington and Oregon in the spring and have spent a fair share of my summer weeks in the hot and humid mid-West and Southern U.S. I have even been to a few of those places during the winter, and as beautiful as all those seasons are in their own right, given the choice I will always choose my long Montana winters and my wonderful, albeit short, spring, summer, and autumn days.

Remember that as the leaves change and fall, it might be worth your time to take a look back and re-evaluated what’s important to hold on to, and what is worth letting go.

…and to answer that question you’ve been asking in your head. No I did not know Miss Montana in the pageant. Though last year’s Miss Montana and I went to high school and did theatre together and the new Miss Montana grew up down the street from me…so yeah, maybe Montana is just one big, small town.